Daddys girls

[Dago]

I have one little girl recently turned 12. I am really having a hard time digesting this. Lately she isn't wanting to come over as much her mother and I haven't been together for a long time. I know its age she's got her friends she is hanging around with at school, sleep overs, facebook she's growing up. I can tell don't she wanna hurt my feelings I was same way with my parents. Honor roll srudent couple times doesn't get in trouble other than a scrap with a lil boy over a pencil she won 🙂 she doesn't dare mention the word boy or boyfriend around me. Its a matter of time blonde hair blue eyes a knock out like her momma. I think she feels bad to call and ask for stuff now that she's starting to have a little bit of a social life. Her tablet broke couple weeks ago normally shed bypass mom and come straight to daddy. I found out from her mother went got her another one. She lives on the south side of the city its kinda rough especially for a lil girl imo but I don't think she is even aware of her surroundings. I'm bout to worry myself sick now that she's getting older. I've put the fear of God in her neighborhood everyone knows she's my kid. Daddys girl man that's how it is. Any words of wisdom from you guys with daughters ?

 

[keyk240]

Dango, I have a little one myself, she's not old enough for the whole social life yet. But seeing your post opened my eyes a bit. I took a lot of child development classes that explained the emotional state if a child in prepreteen years 11-13. And what you are experiencing is normal. Exploration and female bonding is what you will expect arround this age. To get more time together I would suggest a hobbie or sport you both can learn to love. Ex. Self defense classes, gun range, sports, or even (sounds weird) but make a date night with your daughter. So every Tuesday you go out to dinner or a movie to talk. Don't make it a weekend because she will cancel on you a lot. It's a stage in there life you'll get through it and she'll always be "daddy's little girl."

 

[Jinko]

Dago, I'm in similar situation. We can talk here or PM if you want.

 

[Gunner16]

I have a 18 yr old girl soon to be 19 and I went through all of this stressing myself out everyday. I found myself fantasizing about choking her boyfriends all that good stuff. I have found its been a lot easier than I thought. I think I raised her right and I give her my trust and she talks to me about everything I'm very lucky. I'm sure your a good dad just be confident that you've raised her right in your eyes. I always drilled in my daughter that no means no period don't let anyone guilt you into doing anything you don't want too. She also knows that I will be there for her and react how she wants me too. Its a tough one brother but honestly it's been easier than I thought. I am very lucky to have a great daughter I'm very proud. You can also pm me if you need to I've been there

 

[MuscleAddiction]

I have 2...one is 20 and my little angel is 8, yes it is heart wrenching bro. I don't have time to respond like I want to but you are not alone, just make sure you do your best to be an active part of her life, be open to her, and tell her you love her everyday!!! I have been through hell with my oldest and still there, sorry not to scare you but yes you need to watch out for Facebook, internet, outside influences, and like I said be there for her at anytime...have to go to work and class today, PM me if you like also, I will revisit this thread later...again itis part of their growing up and you are not alone brother!

 

[BIGBOSS]

Brother Dago I can relate except my daughter is 13. I finally get to see her today. Haven't seen
her in 3 months. It will get better for us brother. Seems now they are growing into their own
lane.

 

[JM750]

Some of you have read some of the personal things going on in my life with my kids as well. We live in a whole different world today then it was for most of us growing up. Kids today seem to be heavily drawn to the cell phones and all these gadgets and forgetting the most important thing which is love of your family.

Not sure how much contact you have with her, but send her a nice card once in a while and and tell her how much you love her. There is no getting around her growing up and having her own bunch of friends. hopefully, she will stay on the straight. I wish I could give you more advice Bother Dago, but my kids are just as young as yours.

good luck, and you always have your EG brotherhood reach out to.

 

[Dago]

Thanks guys I talked to her just a bit ago this was her weekend but she had something going on idk what. She asked me come pick her up tomorrow and the 2 of us just go do something. I think she feels guilty for not coming over now she's trying to make up for it. I dont force her to come if she don't want to. She used to blow my phone up if I was 5 mins late I guess that's another thing. Glad she feels bad for mistreating me lol big strong guy getting whipped by a little girl smh

 

[stonetag]

Every brother here will agree that a daughter is a beautiful thing, what happens when puberty descends on them will remain a mystery forever in a mans eyes. I too have a little girl, who at 23 is as sweet as she can be, The same to be said about the years leading up to the "change"! To this day I wonder if I did something wrong that would make her not want to hardly acknowledge me? I believe it just goes with the territory. I can tell you brother as will the other men with daughters past "THE AGE" that it does get better.

 

[HARD AT IT]

Same here bro!! My daughter is 17 and just beautiful every time we go somewhere there is some dickhead just eye fucking her to death... i usually say something... but she gets mad..lol... I can tell you one thing bro.. when she was 12-15 all she cared about was her phone and acting older than she was.. Now she graduates in May and I know she is going to enjoy the freedom of being 18 and out of school. Totally out of my hands but the things she says and does makes me know that her mom and I have raised her right... That y friend is all you can do. Teach them the right ways =)

 

[ajdonutz]

Man I've dreaded this for years already. No kids of my own yet but plan to, and have always had a fear of having a daughter.. I'd love having a girl, but God id be so scared. Knowing how boys/men are and seeing how many girls turn into girls a parent wouldn't be proud of these days.. but as said, its all about raising them right and knowing you did. There are still girls that grow up to be wonderful, good girls. My woman is and always has been one, refreshed me and let me know it is still possible for girls to turn into wonderful young ladies even in today's world.

 

[MuscleAddiction]

I could type with my thumbs for hours on this topic as my girls are my world, will do anything and everything for their success in life. My oldest is on one side of the fence...going down her path, even though it is a path that breaks my heart, creates anxiety for me, will physically and emotionally drain me more often than not. Then there is my little girl who is 8, and is just amazing, blows me away with her care, love, and happiness and outlook on life...she is the total package. My oldest won't talk to me let alone be honest and truthful to where I can trust her, and she has been taught lifes lessons from mom and I, not to lie, cheat, steal, treat others with respect and how you want to be treated, don't be manipulative or take advantage of others for your benefit...trust me did everything I could as a big strong dad even spend $75k on therapeutic wilderness programs, private high school, therapy sessions with her weekly to help her understand and speak her feelings openly, but the outside influences I could not control were the ones who were too powerful...internet and Facebook, the black hole of everything we are trying to protect our children from right at their fingertips. We give them cell phones, smart phones, computers, internet access...and they are too immature for it, and so are we as adults. We need to understand it is our fears, the feel we need to have control because they are not ready and then BOOM!!! They are now 18 years old and they are told by society as well as friends that they are now adults and parents lose their control to continue to parent their child...and one day we go to our therapist and no problems, the day she turns 18 the therapist needs my daughters consent to have me in her therapy sessions or even have permission to be in the same room as her...WTF??? This is where our society is our own worst enemy, although we need to parent our children to succeed in this society we live in or else we are setting them up for failure. To be a parent is the toughest job period, give a daddy a beautiful little girl to raise, love, nurture, and protect...100x more difficult!!! We are men, we know who will ultimately be with our daughters, and we know how we can be. Then take our rights away at an age where these kids are not ready to be adults and give them adult rights without fully understanding and we have no control or any leg to stand on with them...is just plain fucking insanity!!!

Sorry, just keep doing what you are doing brother...be open to her, make sure to let her tell you anything...it is what you don't know is what you have to worry about! Love her, make sure she knows everyday, make sure she knows she can come to you for anything without you freaking out on her, she needs to feel safe with you...her daddy!!!

This is why my signature says what is says...you have some vets here in the daughter business, hit us up anytime, needs to be more support groups for Daddy's with Daughter's!!!

 

[Dago]

Put you guys up on game. I used to be into a lot of bad shit lets say. Did some time on felony assault robbery and intimidating a witness in a legal process. Now I have a full time job married people change. Anyway there is a phone app called tispy.net the legal loophole for this app to be legal is its supposed to be for parental control monitering of your childs cell phone. Its illegal to download this app to any phone that is not yours or on your cell phone plan etc...this app is easy to download and 100% hidden in the device. Gives you total control over whoevers phone you download it to from your or smartphone android ir iPhone. My boys girl was cheating on him he put the app in her phone. Knew where she was 24/7 gps could turn the microphone on listen to everything going on kids playing listen to her talking fucking her other dude at night. Total internet control knows all passwords to anything logged into the device. Check fb page turn the phone off/on turn on the playlist. Watch on mapquest as she drove anywhere tell you whst exit the bitch getting off on get. Listen to phone calls moniter incoming/outgoing txt msgs or edit them delete/add msgs. See everything downloaded. I never let anyone use my phone to make a call nothing anymore. Phones are not phones anymore your phone is who you are. I can download the app in your phone in less than 2 minutes hide the app clear the browser you'd never know it. Know every move you make all your contacts emails bank info who's wife your fucking. Its a smartphone world homies. Now if you wanna use it for what its legal use is for go to tispy.net set up an account think its 13 bucks a month. Create an account with an email if your concerned about your children who their hanging with what they are downloading all of the above permissions the app offers there you go. Can I borrow someones phone ? My battery is going dead need to make a quick call....gangster.

 

[HARD AT IT]

Man.... Thats some scary shit... Imagine what they can put on your cpu with out you even knowing??