Tough line to draw

[Bama]

Whats up ladies and gentlemen? I have a situation on my hands thats pretty freaking tough ok here it goes:
My best friend is back out there on dope and i dont know from day to day if we are gonna get the phone call that nobody wants to get, when i say "dope" here in TN is pills and heroin. A few weeks ago he came to me asking for help because he got kicked out of a rehab for having "unauthorized prescription" it was trazadone that his doc gives him to sleep. So with me being around him a pretty good bit and knowing he is trying my wife and i sit him down and talk with him and decided to put him up in a motel for a week on the grounds that he stays accountable and shows some type of innitiative to get a job and move forward in some kind of way. Low and behold we hear nothing from him until it was like 2 days til his time was up, and he said his old boss contacted him and wanted to know if he wanted his old job back, so i go back to my wife and say lets get him 1 more week so he will not have to go to this interview or whatever living out of a car. He called me and asked if he could work with me one day, and in the middle of the day it dawned on me, this is the day he is supposed to have his drug screen and all. I asked him about this and he said they put it off, in which companies do not do. So that day we come to my house and he goes into my bathroom and comes out "FADED" he couldnt even talk to me, so i pay him his money what i owe him for a day work and told him "I am done!" and its like he dont get it!!! I also asked him if he wanted to try to make a payment on the money he owes us, and this guy has the pride to say "no" I myself was on methanphetamine for 17 years along with other drugs and one thing that woke me up is when my friends and family CUT ME THE HELL OFF!!!! His mom still pays for everything, motel rooms, dope, pawned titles etc you name it she will bail him out, and i keep trying to tell her, the best thing we can do for him is leave him be!!!!! I think the 1 thing that keeps me holding on is i feel sorry for him, he found his dad dead with a needle in his arms a litle over a year ago and he just dont know how to get healing from this deep rooted pain. Thanks for reading and any encouragement and advice will be greatly appreciated.

 

[EG Anonymous Poster]

i'm going through something similar myself and all i know is it's hell

 

[suraonyx23]

Brotha I know what your going through. And you already said it. You have to want to change and stop but he's clearly not ready. I'm guessing that where y'all live is small country town? (Correct me if I'm wrong) hard to get away from that in smaller cities and towns. Does he have family anywhere else away from there he could stay with an get clean? Cuz if not then honestly the best thing for him and could quite possibly save his life is get him locked up! And yes that's a horrible thing to say but it's better than him staying lord knows where and constantly having the temptation cuz your still on the streets. If he was locked up for 4-6 months and had to detox in jail would suck but he would be clean and alive.


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[Bama]

Brotha I know what your going through. And you already said it. You have to want to change and stop but he's clearly not ready. I'm guessing that where y'all live is small country town? (Correct me if I'm wrong) hard to get away from that in smaller cities and towns. Does he have family anywhere else away from there he could stay with an get clean? Cuz if not then honestly the best thing for him and could quite possibly save his life is get him locked up! And yes that's a horrible thing to say but it's better than him staying lord knows where and constantly having the temptation cuz your still on the streets. If he was locked up for 4-6 months and had to detox in jail would suck but he would be clean and alive.


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No, his fam is in Columbus OH

 

[suraonyx23]

No, his fam is in Columbus OH

I hear ya man. Hit me up whenever you can.


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[Bama]

I hear ya man. Hit me up whenever you can.


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Yea, I will, alot if this stuff going in us why I've not hit u up

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[suraonyx23]

Yea, I will, alot if this stuff going in us why I've not hit u up

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I figured man. Holla if you need anything


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[Bama]

I figured man. Holla if you need anything


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k, thanks

 

[Gibbit]

I knw first hand how hard this can be. I myself have spent many years addicted to pain pills and herion. At one point in my life many years ago i lost everything. I l8v3 in the new england area where currently fentyanl dope is a huge epidemic. Your friend truly has to want to be clean, and sometimes that may not even be enough. Its hard to explain, but for me even at my lowest times stopping seemed impossible. I can only explain it like this, being dope sick is like having the worst flu u have ever had, ur body aches, one second ur freezing so u cover up, 5 seconds later u sweating and soaked, the restless leg while u lay there trying to sleep it off will literally drive u nuts. The whole time u feel like this, in ur mind u knw there is one thing that will make u better. So in the mind of a addict using he will say he feels normal but to u, u knw he is messed up. Without it he feels terrible, with it he feels normal. He has to want to be clean, and then he has to change everything about his current life. People, places and things. I will say what worked for some may not work for him. My approach to getting clean was totally different than what most people recommend doing. The other issue is treatment centers in ur area may be hard to get into or easy it jst depends. If you want suggestions and help w a detox plan PM me, if treatment isnt a option. That is if u are willing to help him. The path he is going there isnt many outcomes unfortanely. Death, jail or clean. Im sorry bro i dont mean to he rude i truly wish the best. Depending how much u want to get involved, agian i am willing to help w advice and would be happy to do so.

 

[Bama]

I knw first hand how hard this can be. I myself have spent many years addicted to pain pills and herion. At one point in my life many years ago i lost everything. I l8v3 in the new england area where currently fentyanl dope is a huge epidemic. Your friend truly has to want to be clean, and sometimes that may not even be enough. Its hard to explain, but for me even at my lowest times stopping seemed impossible. I can only explain it like this, being dope sick is like having the worst flu u have ever had, ur body aches, one second ur freezing so u cover up, 5 seconds later u sweating and soaked, the restless leg while u lay there trying to sleep it off will literally drive u nuts. The whole time u feel like this, in ur mind u knw there is one thing that will make u better. So in the mind of a addict using he will say he feels normal but to u, u knw he is messed up. Without it he feels terrible, with it he feels normal. He has to want to be clean, and then he has to change everything about his current life. People, places and things. I will say what worked for some may not work for him. My approach to getting clean was totally different than what most people recommend doing. The other issue is treatment centers in ur area may be hard to get into or easy it jst depends. If you want suggestions and help w a detox plan PM me, if treatment isnt a option. That is if u are willing to help him. The path he is going there isnt many outcomes unfortanely. Death, jail or clean. Im sorry bro i dont mean to he rude i truly wish the best. Depending how much u want to get involved, agian i am willing to help w advice and would be happy to do so.

Thanks man, i really appreciate this, i may be PM you soon.

 

[GRIM]

awesome every time i see a bro be there for another