What Men Want: The Biology of Beauty Standards

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WHAT MEN WANT & THE BENEFIT OF BEAUTY STANDARDS​

Ladies, you know what features you find attractive among men, but do you know what men want in a romantic partner? The idea of "beauty standards" is appalling to most modern women, but knowing them may be important if you want to make a memorable first impression.

Men are more visual, and they value physical qualities even after marriage. So if you're already married and just want to fire up your husband's hormones a bit more, there are some things you can do. But first...






Before you crucify me, remember that I wrote a full article grilling men for having dad bods. The research shows that women generally prefer a fit, strong, lean, and masculine body. Now it's time for the tables to turn because, you know, equality.

"BUT BEAUTY IS SUBJECTIVE!"​

Sure, we all have our preferences, but beauty is actually not all subjective as the data indicates. Still, data speaks of general averages. If you're an outlier or trying to attract a man who's an outlier, that's great. Go live your life. Neither us have to die on any hill.

"WHY DO YOU HATE WOMEN?"​

I don't. I'm trying to help. The research exists and male biology is male biology regardless of what I say. I'm trying to make you aware in case this info improves your chances of landing a guy, which you may want. You can thank me later.

"MEN ARE SHALLOW PIGS WITH UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS!"​

It wouldn't be fair to call women shallow for preferring high-earning fit men (but they do), so simmer down. And yes, men care about more looks, but if we're talking looks here's what most male brains prefer.

What Men Like is Universal (Mostly)​

Our days from caveman up till now haven't changed much. Sure, we have technology and memes now, but human biology and psychology have always been the same.
If we're going to connect intimately with someone for a lifetime, they better be healthy and able to reproduce. This is the biological intent of both sexes; thus, attractive people have more reproductive success (1). Not to mention, men rate attractive women as healthier. This begs the question, what kind of body is a man's brain noticing?
Primarily, it comes down to one thing: your waist-to-hip ratio (WHR). A ratio of 0.7 and a more curvaceous hourglass body is what men desire most (3). This is universal across cultures and generations (4,5).
Unsurprisingly, WHR can reliably predict a women's reproductive health (6). Larger breasts and smaller waists are also detected as reproductive potential in men (7). This is even true for men who don't want to have kids. It's baked into our biology.
Don't believe me? Even male children as young as 3 years old can screen for the same WHR as adult men and have the same brain reaction whether given images or computer models (8,9). Young boys might think all girls have cooties, but their brains biologically know which girls have a healthier distribution of tissue.

The Main Factor for a Desirable Physique​

As visually responsive as women are, the male biology is exponentially more visual than that. Men can detect your breasts and hips for reproductive success within .2 seconds (10). The man's brain is analyzing this WHR and notices it before he even notices skin tone or breast size (11).
In fact, one study found men looked at breasts more often, but when asked to rate attractiveness, the correlation followed optimal WHR and overall waist size regardless of breast size (10). So while breasts are mesmerizing to men, the waist-hip area is what seals the deal.
Even the most noble guy is biologically calculating this. It's automatic. Men don't need to take an obvious or direct look to assess the information their biology is searching for.
Men can compute your WHR through their peripheral vision, and can map out a female body even with minimal information detected, so long as the woman isn't overly covered or wearing too much make-up (12).
Furthermore, humans can accurately detect how healthy someone is by the color/shade of someone's white outer layer of their eyes. In other words, his brain is sizing up your health and reproductive potential at first glance (13).

Beyond the WHR​

Men like the same things women like: a leaner, fitter individual, ideally with some muscle.


One study looking at female body fat levels and distribution found the WHR to be the primary factor, but attraction kept increasing with lower BMI's down to BMI 19 (14). So there's a reasonable level of leanness that men find most attractive. This is not to say deviations are unattractive, but less so generally.
To get even more down to the nitty-gritty, based on interactive models of body fat percentage and BMI ratios, the most attractive sweet spot was a BMI and body fat percentage of 23 and 23% (16). If you were to interpret this by real-world looks, this is a somewhat muscled women with a favorable WHR, and lean enough to have a relatively flat stomach. Ab definition isn't required.
Many women describe this look as fit, toned, or athletic. This is NOT the super-thin 90s model look that many women fear they have to live up to. Nonetheless, there's a spectrum of looks a man desires and the closer to the sweet spot he sees, the more his biology takes over. Literally.
The closer to a man's desired WHR he observes, the more his brain's reward pathway is stimulated (17). In fact, the brain pathways that regulate reward and activate decision and behavior get stimulated more when a man sees his desired body (18,19,20).
So assuming a fella has the balls to approach a women, his brain initiates behavior to approach and flirt based on attraction. This is why some women get approached more than others. Their body is beckoning the men around them more than other body types. Call it shallow, but it's out of our control.
Most guys aren't even aware of it. Even when we are, it's not something we can simply shake off. Just like a female brain calculates data based on other metrics and sparks romantic feelings, ours drives behaviors based on appearance.

It's not the most fun news to hear about the male species. I get that. But you can complain about biological design all day, or you can read on for some practical tips.

Practical Tips For Physical Attraction​

Ladies, there's more within your control than you think. A man's brain isn't asking you to be taller or make more money. Okay, that was a bad joke. But anyway, you can alter your WHR and grow muscle over time via behavior change.
The good news? Research finds that women with a more favorable WHR have no hormonal difference from those who lack it (21). It always comes down to lifestyle.
You can do the following to get and stay lean while building a fit physique. On top of becoming more attractive, achieving this physique will likely raise your confidence:

• Strength train hard enough to build muscle.
• Train your legs, delts, upper back, and glutes with a big emphasis on glutes to get a more hourglass shape.
• Eat adequate protein to fuel muscle growth.
• Eat within a caloric deficit if you're not at your desired level of leanness.
• Eat a nutritious diet, get lots of sleep, minimize stress, and go to the doctor regularly to ensure good health, hormone levels, and reproductive potential.

You don't have to get all the way down to a 0.7 WHR and be epically jacked, but statistically speaking, the average women would be much healthier and subsequently more attractive to male biology if she got a bit leaner and built a bit more muscle.
Nobody's saying you have to change if you don't want to. These are merely suggestions if you're interested in men and want them to be interested in you.