You'll have to personalize your relationship with your daughter as no kid is the same at all. Some kids growing up in the same life as myself turned out entirely different than myself, most cases much worse. I had my fair share of mistakes but In the long run I turned out great. Being open about things will help a ton, give freedom but keep some sort of limitation on it. Let her earn it back from where she is now, but don't restrict it too much, for most kids that's a recipe for disaster. Yes, blue, sometimes it works, but those cases are the minority. Where I grew up, the ones who lived a sheltered life turned into absolute freaks with partying, drugs, sex etc as soon as they broke loose, or even every time they had a chance to sneak out. That's coming from me whom my significant other lived a pretty sheltered life, however she was one of the few who turned into a responsible adult and never even went through a wild phase.
Kids will make mistakes. Its part of growing up. Let them make those sometimes and learn, as hard as it will be especially with a little girl. I'm not saying let her go get laid at age 11. Hell no. Keep her from that shit as long as possible, but give her the amount of freedom she needs at that age. She needs friends outside of school, not guy friends, but friends. I wouldn't say have the school keep her away from boys. If that's what you do then boys will feel taboo and as soon as she gets the chance she's going to want to hurry and find out everything she can about the first one she can sneak with. Let her interact with boys at school as if they were just like her girl friends. Not much is going to happen during recess in elementary school even if they tried.
As she develops give her a bit more freedom. Also, be her parent, and also a bit of a friend. Don't throw parent out the window to be a friend, but also keep the relationship strong with your kid. You'll be happy about it later so long as you maintain the respect you deserve as her parent. Its not going to be easy, but it can be done. When she gets through this little spell, give her her iPad or whatever back, but have her know what she's not to do on it, and keep monitoring it. She fucks up again, its gone longer. 3rd time, out the window. Let her chat with her friends, boys or whatever, but let her know she's too young for the talk she's doing , and that that kind of talk will not be permitted.
