Getting over her

[DGAF]

The best thing to do is stay away and don't make contact at all. Get rid of everything that reminds you of her, throw it out or put it someplace where you wont see it and forget about it. Breakups are the hardest to get over if you have something that makes you think of the person in front of you or at an arms reach all the time. Get rid of her number because you will find yourself looking at it and going to call it or going to send a text and get half way through it only to not send it, best thing is to erase it out of your phone and if you do still want to keep it write it down somewhere and keep it in a drawer or old wallet, somewhere you don't look all the time. I have had it happen lots of times and what I always do is take the number out of my phone and write it on a little piece of paper and put it in an inside pocket of an old wallet and leave it there. I get everything that reminds me of the girl and put it up somewhere or throw it out. Then I try not to think of the person, which is hard at first but it gets easier over time. The worst thing you can do is trying seeing her or talking to her or texting her, it will only put you right back to the beginning every time. I look at it like every day is a day down and one day closer to getting over her, if you don't contact or see her for a week that's a week under your belt, but if you go and text her or anything then you lose all that time and go back to day 1. I also look at it like if she is dating someone else or being intimate with anyone else then she moved forward and that is that, from that moment on there is no coming back or going back to me, you go forward you stay forward don't come back cause I don't want to be with her if she was with someone else, I am the last one she is with from the time we meet and after that if anyone else has her then its done I don't want it afterwards. Those are my basic rules to relationship.

I hope you can find something in there to help you out cause I know how bad it sucks to have someone you cared so much for leave.

 

[morrey]

women at that age are ready to settle down, and since your in college probably were not ready? Man you are so young. You want a woman to stay with you, you need a good job, house, car, and show stability. otherwise you get some 8 balls and hookers! 😛

We are both in college. She didnt go to school straight out of high school. I wouldnt say im ready to settle down but I am ready for a committed relationship. I have had my fair share and wanted to give a serious relationship a shot. It wasnt me that wasnt looking for it. Her ex really hurt her so i think she is afraid of commitment

 

[DGAF]

Should I even stop being friends with her? Before we got together we were best friends. We hung out or talked every day. I really realy do want her back but I may have fucked that up. I tried a big romantic gesture 2 weeks after we broke up and she said "you obviously werent listening when i said its over". I knew i should have just done my own thing and waited longer but she was all i could think about so i had to make a move.

If she said that to you I wouldn't be her friend anytime soon. She is in that stage where she is gonna hate you cause it will help her get over you, her being mean is her way of coping and forgetting. I would just let her be for while so that you can both get over it and maybe in the future you can be friends again.

 

[morrey]

The best thing to do is stay away and don't make contact at all. Get rid of everything that reminds you of her, throw it out or put it someplace where you wont see it and forget about it. Breakups are the hardest to get over if you have something that makes you think of the person in front of you or at an arms reach all the time. Get rid of her number because you will find yourself looking at it and going to call it or going to send a text and get half way through it only to not send it, best thing is to erase it out of your phone and if you do still want to keep it write it down somewhere and keep it in a drawer or old wallet, somewhere you don't look all the time. I have had it happen lots of times and what I always do is take the number out of my phone and write it on a little piece of paper and put it in an inside pocket of an old wallet and leave it there. I get everything that reminds me of the girl and put it up somewhere or throw it out. Then I try not to think of the person, which is hard at first but it gets easier over time. The worst thing you can do is trying seeing her or talking to her or texting her, it will only put you right back to the beginning every time. I look at it like every day is a day down and one day closer to getting over her, if you don't contact or see her for a week that's a week under your belt, but if you go and text her or anything then you lose all that time and go back to day 1. I also look at it like if she is dating someone else or being intimate with anyone else then she moved forward and that is that, from that moment on there is no coming back or going back to me, you go forward you stay forward don't come back cause I don't want to be with her if she was with someone else, I am the last one she is with from the time we meet and after that if anyone else has her then its done I don't want it afterwards. Those are my basic rules to relationship.

I hope you can find something in there to help you out cause I know how bad it sucks to have someone you cared so much for leave.

I still love her and want to get her back. If she is intimate with anyone else then yea its a no brainer and i feel like i wouldnt have any trouble getting over her. A side note- after her last ex she wasnt with anyone for a year so i feel like she may not be with anyone for a while and that will just give me hope

 

[DGAF]

I still love her and want to get her back. If she is intimate with anyone else then yea its a no brainer and i feel like i wouldnt have any trouble getting over her. A side note- after her last ex she wasnt with anyone for a year so i feel like she may not be with anyone for a while and that will just give me hope

Of course you are going to want her back, you love her. If she isn't with anyone then there may still be a chance but I think it is too soon still cause of what you said she had said to you when you tried your romantic gesture. She is shunning you away for a reson, either she is making her self be mean so its easier to get over you or she has someone else. If she has someone else it is time to cut ties and move forward, if she isn't with anyone else I say let it cool down for awhile and see where things lead.

Everything happens for a reason. Let it play itself out, its the best thing to do. If it is meant to be it will be if not you cant force it to be.

 

[49ER]

Hate to say this more than likely shes being mean and broke it off because theres someone else or an ex came back in the pic chicks just dont break up and not see anyone. Been there done that had an ex was being a fucken cunt ed couldn't figure out why. ..turns out she was trying to break up because her ex was back and hounding her.

 

[DGAF]

Hate to say this more than likely shes being mean and broke it off because theres someone else or an ex came back in the pic chicks just dont break up and not see anyone. Been there done that had an ex was being a fucken cunt ed couldn't figure out why. ..turns out she was trying to break up because her ex was back and hounding her.

I have to agree with this bro. She wont just leave without reason and she isn't going to leave and not have someone, very unlikely she left to be alone. I had it happen to me before too, I have learned a lot about what to look for and what to do. It sucks but it happens and you have to deal with it.

 

[morrey]

Of course you are going to want her back, you love her. If she isn't with anyone then there may still be a chance but I think it is too soon still cause of what you said she had said to you when you tried your romantic gesture. She is shunning you away for a reson, either she is making her self be mean so its easier to get over you or she has someone else. If she has someone else it is time to cut ties and move forward, if she isn't with anyone else I say let it cool down for awhile and see where things lead.

Everything happens for a reason. Let it play itself out, its the best thing to do. If it is meant to be it will be if not you cant force it to be.

Yeah i want to let things cool down and see what happens. So this isnt the first time. We did have a bad break up a while ago and we didnt even talk to each other for 5 months. After that we became friends again then started seeing each other again. This past time when she broke things off she said that down the line (months or years) it could work out after i "matured"

 

[49ER]

When your dating you better be usimg some PSE or Cialis every time you fuck! This is mandatory then no bitch is gonna leave you.

 

[DGAF]

Yeah i want to let things cool down and see what happens. So this isnt the first time. We did have a bad break up a while ago and we didnt even talk to each other for 5 months. After that we became friends again then started seeing each other again. This past time when she broke things off she said that down the line (months or years) it could work out after i "matured"

I would give it time, see what happens. Do not rush things or force things, let it do what its gonna do then handle it from there.

 

[morrey]

I would give it time, see what happens. Do not rush things or force things, let it do what its gonna do then handle it from there.

Its all i can do now. Or else i will make it worse. Ok so i did text her today but i just erased her number. trouble is i have it memorized (1 of the 5 numbers i have memorized, yeah im kinda old fashioned lol)

 

[DGAF]

Its all i can do now. Or else i will make it worse. Ok so i did text her today but i just erased her number. trouble is i have it memorized (1 of the 5 numbers i have memorized, yeah im kinda old fashioned lol)

The text today was not a good move, erasing the number is a good move and even if you have it memorized you don't have ready access to it on your phone like if it was stored you can just go to it where if its not in there you would actually have to type it in. It is a start because it will detour texting and calling hopefully long enough for you to realize it isn't a good idea and you wont enter the number in the phone. Baby steps but steps nonetheless. Leave it alone and go about your business. I would go our and hang with friends or talk to girls or something just to distract your mind from her. Every little bit counts, it will add up in the long run and things will be easier.

 

[morrey]

The text today was not a good move, erasing the number is a good move and even if you have it memorized you don't have ready access to it on your phone like if it was stored you can just go to it where if its not in there you would actually have to type it in. It is a start because it will detour texting and calling hopefully long enough for you to realize it isn't a good idea and you wont enter the number in the phone. Baby steps but steps nonetheless. Leave it alone and go about your business. I would go our and hang with friends or talk to girls or something just to distract your mind from her. Every little bit counts, it will add up in the long run and things will be easier.

Yeah i have plans later today with an old friend (chick). Try and get my mind off of her.

DAY 1 - thanks for the advice. Everyday I will want to get number higher

 

[DGAF]

Yeah i have plans later today with an old friend (chick). Try and get my mind off of her.

DAY 1 - thanks for the advice. Everyday I will want to get number higher

That is the right way to think bro. Count the days upward, don't waste the days by going backwards bro. Hang with people, have, fun meet and talk to girls, and get your mind somewhere else. The worst part is when you are alone doing nothing cause that's when you start thinking and contemplating the texts and calls, don't do it!

 

[49ER]

Oh yea! Set up a plenty of fish account its free and you can kill time send and receive messages and get some dates going.

 

[DGAF]

Really anything to kill the time, be it a bb forum or another kind of forum or craigslist or POF, just as long as your doing something you wont be thinking of her. Send messages like said above or Skype or email, just keep busy.

 

[JM750]

I really realy do want her back but I may have fucked that up. I tried a big romantic gesture 2 weeks after we broke up and she said "you obviously werent listening when i said its over".

Fucken cunt. Like I told you, they are cold hearted bitches. Take this as the best 1st lesson you learned with women.
Now as I already told you, don't give her the fucken time of day. Get your fucking ass to the gym and take care of business.

 

[Baited]

Thanks for the advice man. Yeah it sucks because we go to school together and we have class together. I forgot to mention that before we started seeing each other she was my best friend. So im losing a friend as well

This is the part that sucks. I broke up with my girl of 5 years because I wasn't in love with her anymore and she wanted to get married and have a child in 5 years. I know I do not want that life, especially not in 5 years, so it was hard but I had to break up with her because it wouldn't be fair to keep it going.
She was my best friend basically so it's tough (even though I broke up with her). I randomly found a lesbian that wanted a straight guy friend since straight girls always have gay friends haha. It's easier now that I have someone to distract me during the day and it's even better knowing that it's strictly platonic. I mean the girl is attractive, but she definitely made it clear it won't happen... when we were both drunk at my place... I had to at least try!

You need something to distract you from this, either your friends or a hook up. If she is certain on it being over then there is no point in wasting time. You can still love her but eventually you have to stop.

Think about it like this: There are 8 billion people in the world. No one is really "the one". You can have multiple "ones" since there are so many people. You just need to find them again.

Delete her number, delete her facebook/instagram/twitter etc. If you don't, it's going to take longer because you'll be constantly checking up and looking at her. Don't do that.

 

[JM750]

You need something to distract you from this, either your friends or a hook up. If she is certain on it being over then there is no point in wasting time. You can still love her but eventually you have to stop.

Think about it like this: There are 8 billion people in the world. No one is really "the one". You can have multiple "ones" since there are so many people. You just need to find them again.

Delete her number, delete her facebook/instagram/twitter etc. If you don't, it's going to take longer because you'll be constantly checking up and looking at her. Don't do that.

And eventually it will drive you to be sick to your stomach. You won't be able to eat, you won't be able to sleep, you won't be able to think straight. I know because I have been in your shoes many of times in my life. I learned how to just write them off.

 

[DGAF]

And eventually it will drive you to be sick to your stomach. You won't be able to eat, you won't be able to sleep, you won't be able to think straight. I know because I have been in your shoes many of times in my life. I learned how to just write them off.

Absolutely true, it will be like that for sure, I have been there too and everytime it was just like that.