GF problems

[MattyIce]

Having read Daredevils thread got me thinking to post this.

I fucked up yesterday. I got mad at my fiance rightfully so...but I went overboard. I asked for the ring back. She now won't talk to me. It's got me pretty messed up. Any advice or experience welcomed.

 

[Daredevil]

MattyIce tell her you feel you went overboard and that your sorry. DO NOT make excuses on why you went overboard. Ask her where's the ring and say you realized you were wrong by going overboard. Tell her you would like to repropose and get on your knee and do that.

Other game plan would be same apology and words but grab a plastic ring from wal mart or a grocery store vending machine and use the plastic toy ring. Or the ring pop candy from a gas station. Repropose with that and if she says what it looks confused tell her you are reproposing and when she's ready she can put back on the ring you had initially bought.

Good luck bro.

 

[Joebad1]

Take her home and choke slam her then pick her up and ram her in the ass she will love you no matter what....lol j/k she won't stay mad forever believe me if she does you don't need her we all have our fights.

 

[Mrx]

I used to get overboard all the time with my fiancé and she got a very expensive ring and you bet your ass I'd take that shit back every blow out we had.. Now we both laugh about it.. If she's the right girl like Joebad1 said she won't stay mad forever.

 

[MattyIce]

Yeah...I said some fucked up mean shit.
Thanks fellas

 

[pulooooooo]

Be straight forward with her, and give her time...send her flowers if she likes that type of stuff..good luck

 

[jshredz]

Give her a little time to cool of from it before, like at least a day before you attempt to do something special in order to apologize, if you do it too soon she'll still be too upset where she might not appreciated. From now until then DON'T continue to apologize over and over cause it will only make your apology seem less genuine and it will only feed her bad feelings toward the situation.
Set up something special for your apology and move on.
And don't ask for that ring back again unless you guys are done for sure and broken up because she might even ask you to buy her a different new more expensive ring.

 

[Daredevil]

MattyIce if you need to talk about it and vent bro, I'm here. I've been through a lot in my relationship and learned a lot as well to better myself and the relationship.

 

[MattyIce]

She not going to take me back. This girl is stubborn.

 

[Daredevil]

Then move on with your life and pawn the ring. Count it as a win in life because if she can't accept we are human beings and we make mistakes then you need to leave her alone.

 

[Thor]

All is good advice,if she accepts your apology and you really need to let her know that you understand how bad you messed up but be from the heart and don't keep on and on just kind of bury the hatchet and hold on to her bro.
Here is the kicker,you put that ring on her finger again,don't watch her do it if you are in front of her,this means a lot to a women (the bond).
If my ring ever comes off for any reason swelling of my hands,an injury to my hand etc...My wife always wears my ring (on her thumb)and when the time comes for it to go back on my hand then SHE PUTS IT ON and I do the same for her,that was how it was the first time and that is how it is every time since then.She wouldn't have it any other way...🙂 Hope this helps.

 

[MattyIce]

She says she'll think about it. How much time should I wait before I need an answer. I really need to know right now because of work travel and my daughter.

 

[Daredevil]

MattyIce if after 2 days of apologizing she hasn't accepted it, chances are she won't.

I'm curious as to what she did wrong that upset you and that caused you to feel you went overboard.

You can Pm me if you feel comfortable discussing it.

 

[TheMuscleMan]

May I ask what the fight was about? I mean like topic wise you don't have to give specifics. Depending on what the fight was over could mean if you messed it up forever or just alittle while.

Thanks
TMM

 

[MattyIce]

Yeah...its complicated. Basically she changed our out of town trip plans without telling me. When I told her I was mad, she acted like she didn't care...shut me down. I told her if she didn't want me or to communicate then maybe I should leave. She said probably so. She told me to leave so I asked for the ring back.

 

[Daredevil]

Why did she change the trip plans bro? For what reason? Did she have something better planned for y'all?

 

[MattyIce]

No man...were going to ATL to pick up my daughter. She decided the day before she wasnt going but didnt tell me until 4am when I woke her to get ready.

 

[blasson]

Sounds sketchy man... if your fiance is able to just shrug you off like that and not care of your feelings.. even not wanting to be part of your daughters excitement for seeing her dad and to be stepmother... it just isn't right in my book.. last minute changes at 4am when you're supposed to be there for your significant other seems extremely sketchy to me if she had no legit excuse. I'd do some soul searching for you and your daughter and decide if she's truly the right one.

 

[MattyIce]

Appreciate the talk DD. We're meeting for breakfast this morning. I hope all goes well.
Thanks

 

[misterB]

think its over honestly, but for the future id follow up on the suggestion DD made about reading / listening to the five love languages, helps you understand yourself and what others need so you're able to avoid some issues down the rode

i got the audio book, easy to listen to , there is a torrent for it out there