GF problems

[Thor]

This is just my opinion brother Matty,seems like communication is missing even if it is just small things,talk ,connect communicate.We all think we are in the right,when my wife and I don't agree on things,a mans first feeling is I'm right (most the time)it's a hormone thing,LOL.If I stop and think about her and ask her about why she maid a decision etc...then we can come to an understanding of why a situation may have happened.I hope you are following me,I tend to ramble sometimes,LOL,but this is from the heart bro,this is my second wife and we discuss all decisions that either of us might make about anything,it keeps us close and we have a better understanding of each others needs.It is easy to say communication but harder to really make it work,just talk,not argue and not loud,sit and in a normal caring voice discuss the situation.Get close to her,you have to give to get,more communication could have led her to come to you first before changing things.You may already do this Matty my friend,I am just speaking from life experience and I hope it helps in some small way.Get close to her brother without being over bearing and let her know you love her every day,it will make a difference.I do understand we are all very busy now days just making a living and dealing with every day life,but make it a point to make time brother,it will make a difference (the smallest things make a difference to a woman).

 

[TheOne]

Hey brother I'm curious. What's the status? That's a little messed up on her part. Changing outta town plans? That's something I'd wanna have a say so in.i can see where you got frustrated my friend. Does she usually involve in decisions like this?

 

[MattyIce]

We're better than ever before...I posted about it already.
Thanks man

 

[Daredevil]

Great to hear bro!

 

[MattyIce]

What turned the tides my way I believe was that I wrote 15 things I really wanted to say... to tell her how much she means to me. I wrote each on a small piece of paper and folded them in half... 11 serious compliments/truths...3 things to make her laugh and 1 titled "last".

I put them in an envelop and wrote instructions for her open ASAP and to periodically read a note throughout the day. I called her boss before her shift and briefly explained I wouldn't cause and distractions at her work, but I am trying to win her back... would he deliver the envelop to her when she arrived for work. He did.

 

[Daredevil]

That's great bro. Now make sure to do the best you can as a man to make her happy.

 

[MattyIce]

Update...

She started her bs again for no apparent reason. I just couldn't put up with anymore bs. I bought her a new car... she said she wasn't sure she even liked it anymore. And a lot of disrespectful stuff... I fell and broke my foot and ankle last week, she didn't even call to ask how I was doing or if I needed anything. I dumper her. She tried to keep all of my furniture and tv and such...said I "gave" it to her. So when I finally went to "pick up" my stuff about 1/3 of it was in the breezeway of the apt complex. She texted me she was keeping the rest. I called the cops. Officer shows up and after a few minutes and listening to her talk down to me over cellphone call, he tells me to enter the apt however I want...ie kick the door down or break a window. The door came down and I recovered all of my belongings. Her and her family show up as I am loading stuff into the truck and block me in. I call the cops yet again. They are there in like 3 minutes... 3 of them. Told them I had a right to enter as I was "living" there and it was her word against mine if I was or wasn't, and that is a civil matter.

She called my work and told my boss I was abusive and violent to her and her daughter. And I had been threatening her and her family and job. I was fired immediately. I actually overheard their conversation...one side of it anyway.

So... I say... if you have to ask if she is the right one... she ain't. I treated this girl like a queen everyday. She was on her ass when I met her. I was a rock financially, physically and emotionally. Good luck!

 

[Daredevil]

Man there's so much I want to ask and say but the biggest question is how could your boss legally fire you for something she says occurred outside of work?

 

[krustus]

Man there's so much I want to ask and say but the biggest question is how could your boss legally fire you for something she says occurred outside of work?

for real?... i don't see how that is even possible... i'd consider getting an attorney

 

[MattyIce]

Right to work state. They were both slandering me to customers also. A young lady customer of mine met me for drinks last night and told me everything. Anyhoo...better off without her or the piece of shit job, was my last week anyway.

 

[vrod2002]

Crazy shit.. i have a xgf.. that i booted ...three years ago. Still follows me around and gets PIs to get pics of people i am with and then goes to the women i date..and tells them lies n bs.. even makes fake emails and fake fb and messages my friends.. i hence have deleted all my social media and have only one email addrrss that everyone knows its mine for sure... woman...fuk u up bad....

 

[MattyIce]

So I contacted the apt manager and my ex is likely to be evicted. She is trying say I was breaking and entering, although the police dept is supporting me still. Now the apt's want the door paid for. I offered to pay half although I didn't feel I should have to. They said they are going after her for the cost of the door and if she doesn't pay, they will contact me. My name wasn't on the lease, so I don't think I am legally responsible. Then factor that the police told me to kick the door down and were there in support of me doing so... I think I am not responsible. Then the fact that the police told her to open the apt or I would enter anyway necessary and I waited 45 mins to 1 hour before entering (she was 5 minutes away), I am not responsible. Anyhoo... women ARE evil, Grim.

 

[sityslicker1]

damn! no words....

Matty keep your head up brother. I still like to believe things happen for a reason. This wasn't your path. Keep trucking dude, you eventually find yourself in a much better place than you were with this crazy ass chick.

 

[MattyIce]

I was just served with Protection from Abuse orders. She contends I am physically threatening her and her daughter. I have to go to court to prove my innocence.

 

[blasson]

You better bring your phone records. Text records etc. Any and all proof you can provide the better. Go to radio shack and purchase a recording device and try to have a calm conversation with her and bring up the accusations she's claiming on the abuse and stress that is messed up to lie etc. Usually they'll speak the truth on phone over texting it.. that's how I got out of a domestic abuse charge in my earlier days. I recorded all conversations and got her to admit she will just call the cops again and say I hit her like last time if I didn't comply with what she wanted. . Bam all charges dropped. Be smart about it but not obvious. It's time to play ball and gotta do anything you can to win. This can potentially fuck your life up if the charges stick. Idk about you but I'm a hunter and own many guns. Had I got charged with that I'd have to give up ALL my weapons if I wanted to be legal plus a rap sheet. Fuck all that man. Good luck to you.

 

[Daredevil]

I once dealt with a woman like the one your dealing with Matty. She called the police and said I try to run over her with a car after I broke up with her and moved out.

Spent a year gathering up enough evidence to prove I was innocent. It took recording phone calls to do so.

But you have a protection order out again you, so technically you can't answer or speak to her, if you do your violating it.

But it just sounds like your issued a protection order and haven't been charged with anything...

I suggest you quietly and quickly gather your belongings and change your number and move out of state before she claims you raped her in rage or beat her. A friend of mine ex punched her own self in the face repeatedly and then called police saying he beat her. God help you bro.

 

[AkProGuy]

STAY far away from this woman my friend! She sounds like an Evil, selfish Bitch! Cut your losses and be glad that you didn't have any children with her. Run away from anything associated with this scumbag girl!

 

[MattyIce]

Just walked out of court. I represented myself. The judge was totally unbiased...she was great. Dismissed the whole case. My ex sounded like an idiot when the judge asked her what happened...she told 75% truth and still there was nothing there. She asked my side. I told the 100% truth, looked her in the eyes when speaking. She told me to stay away from her, good luck, dismissed!

 

[krustus]

great news... move on with life friend

 

[Hogslayer]

<------ doesn't have the time or the patience for crazy anything. It cost the same amount of money to feed a bad horse as it does a good one. Tell her to save the drama for her momma cuz your not trying to hear it. Example security guard at a housing complex that I don't even live at didn't like me speeding he chased me down the road to my gym No were near the area he works. Got out and tried to talk down to me. I said bro you don't like it call the cops otherwise fuck off. Fucking ppl