Wow this thread has blown up...think your the only one that's has gone through this? Lol
I have been with my with since we were in HS loooong time like 24 yrs. So for what it's worth here's my take. Ok 5 yrs ago I was you, your post could have had my name on it. First understand that kids are a dramatic event and can affect a woman and her hormones and body for many years. They can drain th life out of them to the point you may no longer feel you know the person sitting next to you. The very last thing they need is us pushing our will further down their throat(no pun intended).
Date night always ended with me being pissed, again my expectations were not being met when I wanted. Bullshit right I work, take care of her, good father, don't cheat...wtf she owed me!!! Or did she? Maybe I owed her a relationship without expectations?
So one day I had a thought. I loved my wife and the home she provided to my boys, maybe if I learned to just appreciate her for nothing more than that things would change. I took the bold step of removing my expections. Date night without sex in fact I told her no sex tonight lets just hang out? What? Get my point?
Fast forward a few years and lessons learned and I can tell you that I now have to tell her no-I can't keep up! Really me allowing her the time she needed to know that I loved her for her. Good/bad, up/down has changed our relationship. Example we went out to dinner about 3 weeks ago, my wife was never a wild one. Out of no where while driving home she looked over at me smiles and says, "undo your pants"! Wtf felt like a 16 yr old again hahah
Hang in there bud and know that this to shall pass!
I have been with my with since we were in HS loooong time like 24 yrs. So for what it's worth here's my take. Ok 5 yrs ago I was you, your post could have had my name on it. First understand that kids are a dramatic event and can affect a woman and her hormones and body for many years. They can drain th life out of them to the point you may no longer feel you know the person sitting next to you. The very last thing they need is us pushing our will further down their throat(no pun intended).
Date night always ended with me being pissed, again my expectations were not being met when I wanted. Bullshit right I work, take care of her, good father, don't cheat...wtf she owed me!!! Or did she? Maybe I owed her a relationship without expectations?
So one day I had a thought. I loved my wife and the home she provided to my boys, maybe if I learned to just appreciate her for nothing more than that things would change. I took the bold step of removing my expections. Date night without sex in fact I told her no sex tonight lets just hang out? What? Get my point?
Fast forward a few years and lessons learned and I can tell you that I now have to tell her no-I can't keep up! Really me allowing her the time she needed to know that I loved her for her. Good/bad, up/down has changed our relationship. Example we went out to dinner about 3 weeks ago, my wife was never a wild one. Out of no where while driving home she looked over at me smiles and says, "undo your pants"! Wtf felt like a 16 yr old again hahah
Hang in there bud and know that this to shall pass!
